I was on a family ski trip. I learned something new. No! I didn’t learn how to ski moguls.   I learned how to awe. Yes, awe.

This was several years back during my master’s program in Jewish Studies. One of my professors had assigned a book which I threw in my suitcase as I packed. Talk about serendipity! I started reading it while vacationing among the mountains of south central Colorado. Abraham Joshua Heschel, in God in Search of Man, stated that we humans must learn to “awe.”   What he meant was that we need to develop our ability to stop whatever we are doing and behold things with wonder, reverence, and appreciation.   I looked around with new eyes at the splendid and breathtaking Colorado landscape.   I saw the snowy mountains and the deep blue sky as if for the very first time. My soul soared and I felt a closeness to God. I knew exactly what the author was talking about.

I had been at that same resort several times before in the very same snowy setting and I had always appreciated the majesty of the place. But on that morning, I began to “awe” as well. I pondered from where all that beauty and majesty had sprung. I also thought about what it represented. Gradually, I could “see” beyond the mountains. I could feel God. This brought on a certain understanding and, most importantly, a much needed feeling of serenity.   I’ve practiced “awing” quite a bit since that morning and I’ve gotten quite good at it. I, hyperactive ME, have actually learned to pause once in awhile. Now I take less for granted and find myself offering spontaneous prayers of thanksgiving.

Awing does need to be practiced. It’s not something that comes naturally since humans are pretty self-absorbed and always rushed.   Just as reading Heschel raised my consciousness, we all need to put ourselves on an “awing” exercise program. If you are wondering how your life would be better if you got really good at this skill, consider this: From awing comes appreciation and from appreciation come gratitude and humility. As Rabbi Heschell says, “ The beginning of wisdom is awe.”

This is not to say that awing is to be reserved only for situations that are big and dramatic. Though that would clearly be a place for a beginner to start his “awing” program, Heschel makes the point that there is something sacred in every human being and in every event. I now “awe” at a baby’s tiny fingers, at an athlete’s perfect movements and at my own gift of sight.   It becomes a worthwhile goal for each and every one of us, therefore, to learn to sense wonder even in small things.   Again quoting from God in Search of Man, “awe is a way of being in rapport with the mystery of all reality.”

Contrast this with the human tendencies to obsess about our own petty problems and to rush through each day in a frenzy.

Learning to awe is a useful antidote to negativism.   The ability to “awe” well also gives us the gift of perspective , thereby diminishing our feelings of personal outrage at minor inconveniences and increasing our gratitude for our blessings. When we “awe,” we not only appreciate the miracles and marvels, but we see the grandeur of the world and our own relative smallness.   People who can “awe” are seldom self-important. Instead, they realize their relative insignificance and tend, as our sages tell us, to be happy “each with his/her own portion, ”sameach b’ chelko.“ Awing” also slows us down. Not only can we SMELL the roses, but we become more serene from the experience.

Awing does have some serious side-effects: tranquillity, humility and sanctity. When you really get good at it, life takes on a different twist. You will become aware of the wonder and holiness in most everything and you will be able to see them. Holiness where you might least expect it? I am reminded of the prayer we traditionally say upon going to the bathroom for the first time each morning. We give thanks for our orifices. How lucky we are that they work: How easy to take such a thing for granted, or to debase it. How marvelous to see awe in the process and to give thanks to God.

Please try this exercise. First thing each morning for the next four or five days, step outside to pause and to awe. Then move the exercise indoors. Finding things at which to marvel is easy if you try. You’ll be richer for it.

 POLICY CONFERENCE 2014-from a first-timer

Encouraged by friends, my husband and I attended our very first AIPAC Policy Conference in early March.   With AIPAC’s  (American Israel Public Affairs Committee) Israel advocacy agenda, it’s no surprise that this annual event happens in Washington, D. C.   What was surprising is that, even with 14,000 in attendance, including 2300 students, everyone seemed unified, and good-humored. Further, the crowd management, hospitality, and security were fabulous.  Since there is so much to say and very little space, I’d suggest to anyone who is really interested to go to AIPAC.org and watch a few of the videos from this year’s meeting.  That will give you a taste of what those three inspiring days were like.

 

Basics:

1. AIPAC is an American pro-Israel lobby that uses both staff and membership to get the word out and build relationships.  It is not a charity and contributions are not deductible.  AIPAC often touts and highlights the work of other Jewish organizations. 

 

2. The unity and accord among those in attendance was palpable.  Perhaps this is achievable  since there is really only one  thing on the agenda– to promote a strong Israel/US alliance for the benefit of both nations.  

 

3.  AIPAC utilizes well-organized and consistent efforts to forge relationships with our Jewish and non-Jewish elected, business and religious leaders, relying heavily on direct communication and first hand contact with Israel and Israelis and trips to Israel.

 

4. Most certainly there are many Christians who are strong Israel supporters for religious reasons.  Yet an unbelievably diverse group of other non-Jews have become passionately bonded to Israel because Israel touched their hearts in some way.    Support for Israel stems from doing business, exposure to the absorption of refugees, seeing impressive social and educational program in action, witnessing initiatives for peaceful coexistence,  and learning about medical marvels, technology and environmental advances. 

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Things I’ll remember:

Israel’s voluntary offerings of humanitarian aid on the ground throughout the world—as in Africa, Colorado, Haiti, Fillipines have made profound impressions on many.

 

One  self-described Chicana leader from San Francisco speaks of Israel as “mi causa.”

 

Young Black leaders on AIPAC trips to Israel are always  taken to hear narratives from both Palestinians and Israelis. They seem to  truly embrace the Israeli narrative, once they have seen the facts on the ground.       

 

About 1995, Yossi Vardi made his son and a friend a loan of  $75,000 to develop an  idea they had  called instant messaging.   A few years later, they sold the company  to AOL for over $400 million.

 

Young Black governmental leaders welcome opportunities  to take on  uncomfortable audiences and to advocate their passion for Israel.

 

Tulsi Gabbard, of Hawaii, the first Hindu member of the US Congress is an  AIPAC activist.

 

Pastor Chris Harris of Chicago had 14, 000 of us clapping and saying “Halleluiah.”

 

Prime Minister Netanyahu had some great one liners.  For example, regarding the development of ICBMs by Iran, “They can already hit Israel without them.  What do they need them for?  This scud’s for you.”

 

Iran, Iran, Iran, Iran……..

 

Unlikely pairings of Israel supporters were abundant:  Two teenage soccer players, one Palestinian and one Israeli. First Hispanic female in Congress sharing comments with first Ethiopian female member of the Knesset. Rabbinic leaders  from three streams appearing together and exuding friendship. Sincere bi-partisan support. Among those speaking were Chuck Shummer, Elijah Cummings, John Kerry, John McCain, Bob Menendez, Eric Cantor, and Steny Hoyer.

 

Things you might not know:

 

The US is now the world’s largest producer of hummus, largely due to the Sabra label.

Many former tobacco growers in the South are now growing chickpeas.  

Due to scientific advances, Israel is perhaps the only country in the world that is not facing an imminent water shortage.

After the U. S. and China, Israel has more companies on the NASDAQ than any other nation.

Israeli companies have created at least 10,000 jobs in the US.

Many U. S. police departments own a small  device, invented in Israel, that permits them to see through concrete walls in buildings to locate the position of hostages. 

It’s important to visit your congressional representative and let them know you care.

 

 

 

 

 

“I have a foreign student staying with me.  Can I bring Abdullah along?”

That was the response to an invitation  I extended to a dear friend who happens to not be Jewish.   Now, we’ve had non-Jews at our shabbat table in the past, but never one named Abdullah.

I started thinking of possible complications—our comfort level, his comfort level.   Would he/could he eat at our house?  What if things got uncomfortable?  Then I started to think about what a great opportunity to teach and to learn.  When would this change come again?

“Sure,” I reply. “But I’d like him to call me first and here’s a link to the website muslimmatters.org that he may like to check out regarding halal and kosher.”

I had met Abdullah before in passing.  A twenty-ish student from Saudi Arabia who was studying English in El Paso at the institute I used to own.  I thought of him as very friendly and very focused on his studies.  He was very polite, but we really never spoke of anything substantive and I didn’t know if he knew anything about me.

Abdullah called and thanked me profusely for the invitation and for the website information on kosher.   He told me that he had no problems coming to a Jewish home and even being present for the shabbat ritual.   After researching the  halal versus kosher topic, he said he was comfortable eating kosher.   He hadn’t eaten meat in months and enthusiastically said yes when I offered to prepare a meat dish for him.  

That Friday night, Abdullah arrived bearing a hostess gift of fresh fruits and  he could not have been more pleasant.  All the guest had a lot to talk about and when, it came to kiddush, netilat yadim (hand washing)  and motzi, we slowed it down a bit and  he listened closedly to follow the Hebrew .  He was intrigued by “Shalom Aleichem” and we compared vocabulary that had the same meanings in both Arabic and Hebrew.  

Since our new friend doesn’t drink alcohol, I put a small glass of pomegranate juice in front of him and, though the English word, pomegranate meant nothing to him, he immediately understood what kind of juice it was when I told him “rimon” in Hebrew.  

He sat next to my husband, Norm, who very patiently and appropriately answered dozens of his questions.  It was a real knowledge test for him and, as a teacher, he did very, very well.  Abdullah’s questions sent the message to us that he was looking for commonalities and linkages.     Often, after he heard the answer to one of his questions, we heard him say, “It’s the same.”

At the end of the evening, I was comfortable enough to ask him about some cultural traits among Arabs, and also to ask him to help me understand an incident I’d observed in a hotel workout room some years back.  He answered with candor and good humor.    We didn’t really talk politics, but he did offer the comment that he doesn’t understand people who hate.   I get that.  I’ve seen people like that on both sides. Hatred is easy if you detach and dehumanize another group. It’s easy to hate when you keep your distance, hang out only with others who think as you do.  It’s easier to hate when you chose to only read things that support your viewpoint. When you  meet  people face to face,  and you see them as fellow human beings, stereotypes fade and it’s harder to hate. 

The end of the evening included spontaneous hugs and many smiles–a real feel good for us and for all our guests.  So glad we chose to step out of our comfort zones.   We’re all changed a little, for the good. 

Cheryl’s World’s Best Chicken Soup

 

2 pounds chicken with skin on, prefer legs, thighs or wings

1/2   pound baby carrots

1 large onion

1 package Barley/Lima Bean dry mix (Manischewitz or Streit’s)

(addl dry navy bean and/or barley as you prefer, if you want really thick.

6 kosher Telma consomme chicken cubes or powdered soup equivalent.

1/4 teaspoon garlic powder

 

Spray the bottom of a large soup pot with PAM.

Place all ingredients into the pot.

Fill the pot with water to the 4-quart line.

Cover and bring to a full boil.

(This also can be made in a crockpot at 8 hours low.)

 

Once it starts boiling, lower the heat to low or simmer.

 

Leave the lid on and let the soup cook for two  hours or until the chicken is ready to  fall off the bone and the vegetables become tender. 

Remove from flame.

 

Once the soup has cooled for at least a half hour, remove bones and skin and cut the chicken and vegetables into smaller pieces.

 

Refrigerate until well chilled. Then, skim all the fat from the top. Reheat as needed and add water, when needed,  to make it the desired consistency.

Serves 10-12

 

 Thanksgivukah—Implications and Ramifications

By now you’ve heard that the first day of Chanukah 5774 and Thanksgiving 2013 both occur on the same Gregorian calendar date—November 28.  This little anomaly is forcing American Jews to react and plan differently this year.   Here are a few considerations:

Public outrage-  To quote Stephen Colbert, “How dare you Chanukah?   Chanukah celebrated the struggle of an oppressed people fighting against invading conquerors, while Thanksgiving is about our healthy and nurturing relationship with the (sic.) Indians.”

What to call it—You decide what suits you best….Chanugiving, Thanksgivukah, or perhaps something you come up with.

What to serve—Latke stuffing for your turkey, sweet potato or pumpkin latkes, cornbread latkes, cranberry sauce on your latkes, turkey-shaped sufganiyot for dessert, and don’t forget that Chanukah demands oil, so resurrect that old turkey fryer!

 

What and when to light   If you can find one, you might consider purchasing a “menurkey,”  a chanukiyah  shaped like a turkey and funded by private donations on Kickstarter.  Light your first candle on Wednesday evening, November 27, erev Chanukah (and erev Thanksgiving, I guess.)  You’ll be lighting that second candle on Thursday evening.

Plan for next time—Relax.  You’ve got time.   According to one expert source, the next time this happens will be in 2070.  Most experts, however, offer the year 77,094 as the next concurrence.

Final word—This is a great opportunity to put the “thanks” back in Thanksgiving.  Judaism is very much about having an “attitude of gratitude.”  Extra attention to  ‘shehecheyanu’ and/or motzi is very appropriate.